Impulsive Behavior

Aside from the pre-meditated and the pre-determined.
There comes a time of doing things without thinking,
Without regard, without remorse, without reflection.
Instead, the act is on the here, the now,
The opportunity, the moment, the once in a lifetime.
To believe, this doesn't happen all that much.
Or there hasn't been anything like this before.
But, it is a want, a desire, an exceptional endeavor.
Some call it the best things in life.
Others call it stupidity and a waste.
Either one will suffice depending on the circumstance,
The party, the person, and the cost.
Every action has a consequence,
Every desire has a cost.
But at what cost does this become relevant and acceptable.
The act of impulse over takes us, only throwing out the rules.
Impulsive behavior, Peer Pressure.
The obligation to act, unintentionally.
Accidentally.
Is it because it is limited, being now or never.
Or is it impatience, something that makes us believe,
This one hasn't been done before.
"We are going to get it sometime, might as well be now."
Maybe it's for the surprise, not only to ourselves but to everyone else.
The best gifts in life are surprises.
Could it be for the adrenaline rush, a high, a feeling unexplained only felt.
Somewhere, deep down inside, there is a voice, screaming for freedom.
Yelling its lungs out, hoping to find some kind of peace, some kind of purpose.
A necessity, no.
An attraction, of course.
Regretful, Ask yourself the next month, the next year, the next five.
We make rash decisions because we believe it will make us happy.
We believe that purchasing an item on the spot will take away the pain.
Retail therapy.
With Power comes responsibility,
Maturity is the wisdom.
The measure of a person is not about what they have,
The measure of a person is what they could have, but don't.
They don't act on impulse.
Think before you act.
Irrational activity results in irrational productivity.
Find a purpose. Conquer priorities.
Living in regret is regretting life.
You must learn to follow before you can lead.
You must care for yourself before you can care for others.
Love comes only after you cry.
Live life, before you die.

One Chance, One Shot. One Opportunity.

One chance. One shot.
That's all we want. Just one time.
One opportunity. That's all we'll Get.
If we don't grab onto ourselves, time will pass us by.
We take life for granted, always believing we'll be given another chance.
Life isn't about the opportunities given, it's about the opportunities taken.
It's not that we won't get multiple opportunities with similar things,
We only get one chance with that one thing we most want in life.
One thing. One person. One change. One job. One life.
It's our job not to mess it up.

Everyday we are faced with multiple decision and opportunities.
To do or not to do. To Be, or not to be.
They say, "If it's meant to be, it is up to me."
There's no such thing as coincidence, only planned coincidence.
Things happen for a reason beyond our understanding.
And instead of evaluating and over-thinking, we should just go for it.
Shoot for the skies and let our loved ones be our parachute. Just in case.
We don't regret the things we do, we regret the roads not taken.
Don't live in a life of what if's, curious on what we could've been.
That's fantasy, and we didn't take that path. Too late now.
Maybe it was for the better. Maybe it was for the worse.
All I know is, it's what you don't have now.
It's what you do with what you got that makes you, it's what you don't got that breaks you.
Don't dwell on the things you don't have, love things you do have.
Don't complain on the things you did, complain on the things you didn't do.
Actually, don't complain at all.

Learn from your decisions. Know that they weren't right, nor were they wrong.
We choose things in life for various reasons.
Whether it was in the moment, the feeling, the time, or what fit.
It's done with. You can't control it, I can't control it.
We can't go back in time.
Learn from your decisions. Learn from other people's decisions.
We won't live long enough to make all the decisions in the world.
We won't live long enough to make all the mistakes in the world.

Think before you speak. Think before you act.
Actions speak louder than words.
Silence speaks louder thoughts.
Actions always have consequences.
The size of consequences matters on the size of your brain.
Think about others, Care for close ones, Love the best ones.
Measure the pros and cons if it effects others than yourself.
It's not always about you Bro.

Sacrifice is necessary.
Your happiness is the measure of not just your happiness but the ones around you.
If you are happy, she ain't happy. "We ain't happy."
Life isn't measured by the happiness of one individual, but by the party of individuals.
Life shouldn't be measured by just your happiness.
Selfish, greed, power, authority. All will kill the world.
All will kill your world, and if we let it, will kill our world.


Life is a gift. Life is a beauty. Life is one of a kind.
Balance between yourself and others.
There's a time to be selfish, and there's a time to be self-less.
Know the difference, and know when it's right.
One choice, one shot, one opportunity.
One choice can make you.
One choice can break you.
It's all we'll get. Make the most of it.
Understand, things will not always go your way.
If it's not meant to be, it won't be.
Things happen for a reason beyond anyone's understanding.
We don't regret the things we did, we regret the things we didn't do.
Do your best, try your hardest, and let fate take over.
At the end of the day, know you did all you could.
You did the best you could do.
Leave no room for what if.
When the job is done, walk away.
With your held up high, go ahead and touch the sky.
Sky's the limit, but it's how big you make your rocket.

good friends are hard to come by..

Who do you think the hardest people to find are.? Celebrities? Your other half? Well I suppose both are hard to find, but then again, celebrities are people just like us. And our other half, well that's something that should find us. That is something we shouldn't look for. Instead, we should look for something deeper, more meaningful that will last a life time. Beside the other half, there stands the idea of friendship. Friendship is probably something we all take for granted, thinking that those certain people will always be there. But let me tell you something from firsthand experience. Martin Luther King Jr. once said, "the ultimate measure of a person is not where they stand in moments of comfort and convenience, but where they stand in times of challenge and controversy." Take a minute and think about what these powerful words from one of the great leaders of all time has said. The measure of a person is not where they stand at the memories, the good times, or the convenient times. It is where they stand during the the rough, ugly, and hectic times. Ask yourself, when the world walks out on you, who walks in?

We've all had our share of friends, from our youth in elementary and middle school, to co-workers and college experiences. We remember the High School cliques we'd walk in the halls with and eat lunch with. We remember the ones we'd share interests with such as sports, church, or culture. So as we look at the past, and think about the present, who's really our friend? Who really knows us for us. It seems like we've all had those friends we used to call best friends, or at least close. But somewhere down the road, things fell apart like a new item that deteriorates and depreciates. It's human nature for things to fall apart, and we are often left questioning, what happened, who's to blame, and why... Maybe we took a wrong turn, or we did something we shouldn't have. Maybe they got into a relationship, and left us to rot. No, our close friends shouldn't do that, but did they?

Now I'm not trying to get on anyones case about losing a friend, or leaving a friend, because we all have our reasons. We all have our excuses, and we all have our own characteristics. I am trying to say is that, good friends are hard to come by. My communications professor told us, "You know, I only have five friends.." The class laughed at first. But then he finished," Five people I would die for, five people that would willingly die for me. The rest of the people are just acquaintances." I don't know how the rest of the class interpreted his statement, but I believe what he said is completely, totally 100 percent true. It doesn't matter how many you actually have, but just know what ones are true and what ones are fake.

See this world is filled with billions, and among those billions each and every person is different. That means, there's a world filled with all kinds of people. So be open to meeting everyone because you'll never know what your find. The best find is something you weren't looking for. If I could advise you, I'd say to learn from each and everyone you meet somehow, because in the long run you won't experience it all in your life. And while searching among the billion people in this world, the best reliable friends are the ones you can trust. Trust goes such a long way, but it is the honest factor when you look at your real friends and your acquaintances. The ones you trust with your life, and vice versa, are the ones that will be with you the rest of your life.

One thing that we all have and will always experience is drama. Yes, drama. And maybe it's high school drama, or kiddish drama, either way, it's like the kryptonite of a friendship. Drama is the thing that will tear a friendship apart in an instant...And it's not the depth of the drama, but rather how people handle the drama. I think the main thing that happens when dealing with drama is we get too caught up with what other people will think of us when the drama is out in the open. We always think, well what will they think of me if I'm this way or that way. But when handling drama, remember the truth or the facts, and the overall circumstances of the problem. Is it worth losing a friendship over? Is it worth all the tears and stress? You could say, why the hell are we here in the first place? Most drama is avoidable by one simple solution. Openness. Openness with the relations to communication. If there's something he or she did to you that you didn't like, let them know. Don't let the popularity of the person or the persons background intimidate you. Like you, they are only human. Reguardless of how they handle situations in the past, realize that there is a right and there is a wrong, and if they're in the wrong let them know. If you're wrong, admit defeat. Stop avoiding your pride and ego, and just apologize. Nobody likes to admit they're wrong, but if you are than be a grown adult and admit to it. Yeah it sounds easier than it really is, but that's probably the easiest way to handle a situation without losing respect.

All in all, my view on drama is avoid it if possible. If it isn't avoidable, than talk it out and communicate. Apologize if need be, and go from there. If the other person is too stubborn to admit they're wrong or accept your apology, forget it. Let it go and move on. It shows a lot in a person's characteristics if they're wrong and won't admit to it. But it's nothing to big, and there's a lot more friends out there. Sometimes it can be heard, especially with the close close close friends that have been there from day one. But the closer they are, the easier it should be to talk to em. Friends have value, and you have value to them. The best friends are the ones that are there no matter what. True friends are like stars, you might not always see them, but you know they're there. We've all had our friends come and go, so they're more like acquaintances. The ones that mean the most are the ones that we're willing to risk everything for and vice versa. Great Friends are extended family, so if you don't think they share the same views and morales as your family, chances are they aren't going to be a great friend..

Know that having a great friend requires one thing from you, and that's be a great friend in return. If you're a good friend and people abuse the privileges, they don't deserve you. If you stay a good friend and your efforts go unrecognized, I must say I'm truly sorry. It's your choice to stay or go. You're a good friend but sometimes people don't know what they have until it's gone. And in the end, we both lose out which sucks, but if that's what happens, you can't really do anything about it. So be careful who you trust these days because good friends are hard to find. The measure of a person is one that is trying to solve the problem with you, not running away. If somebody ever hurts you , it is later up to you if you forgive them or not. But remember, "fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me." Like I said earlier, there are billion people in this world, so like a relationship, don't get caught up with just one person. If they hurt you and they don't apologize, chances are they don't care. I know this blog is all over the place with friends...It's such a big topic! But the main points were to be careful who you trust because people will abuse it. The greatest friends are the ones we trust though. Don't get caught up with just one friend, but vary it out. Good friends will build over a period of time, you just have to know the person completely before you trust them. "The ultimate measure of a person is not where they stand in moments of comfort and convenience, but where they stand in times of challenge and controversy." -MLK... " Be true to yourself ,and be true to others. To handle yourself, use your head. To handle others, use your heart." E. Roosevelt.

we are all EQUAL.

Every person is equal unless you're God. You have no right to say you are better. It just proves that you are worse. I think we should all take a minute to take in what is going on around us. We are only individuals to a world that is over 6 billion people deep. Before we criticize and judge, ask yourself, "What position am I to say? Who Am I to judge. Who decides if I'm better than them?" These questions are questions we often skip when it comes to other people besides ourselves. You aren't better then them. And you are in
no position to say anything bad about them.

This world is a selfish one. And for good reason. Competition. Yes, it's mother nature for everyone and everything living to be in competition with others of the same species. From the tigers, monkeys, lions, giraffes, apes, bacteria, flowers, etc. history shows that it's all about competition. Within the human race alone, it's always about being the best player in sports, the smartest in our classes, and the coolest on the block. We always want the hottest girl, or the richest guy, the fastest car, the nicest clothes. And there's nothing wrong with that because if that is what satisfies us, then we should go with what our heart wants. But what is overlooked is that there are differences among these things. Some are materialistic things that we can achieve over the period of our lives. The other is a skill. an ability that we must work on to get to where we want to be. In the end, the human value is the only thing that should matter to us.

I used to thing having the fastest car, coolest friends, and matching outfits was what life is all about. And in times, I was often caught up living in a high school-type lifestyle. But then I realized that these materialistic things are things that anyone can have. And since anyone and everyone can have it, it makes it a matter of competition within individuals. I'm not going to speak for the population, but we all went through high school. And with saying that, I'm pretty sure a majority has thought of the same ideas. Once we hit that age of maturity, we realize that it's not about those things. Instead, it's
about where we are in life, the well paid job, or the well educated schools we attend. But for one minute or two, I wanna take the time and say one thing that is irrelevant to all of it. It's about our human value, our individuality, and our competence. Who are you?

Life isn't about the materialistic things, it's about us as individuals. It's about what we stand for, what we believe in, what we are all about. I think one of the life long goals that will never has a definite answer. And no, I'm not talking about love. I'm talking about our mentality, our shape. It's like taking business 101 and financial accounting together in one course. We learn that it is all related, and that it is all relevant to know. Where we grew up is what shapes our habits and manner, while high school and materialistic things shape our behavior. Individualism, becoming a better person is the goal that we will always have, yet never complete. No matter what happens within your life, you always have the ability to become a better person. Sure competition within humans and every other organism is normal. But does that really separate you from the rest? If you were randomly selected within a survey, what individual characteristics can you say that you have, which will make you a more likable pick than the person standing next to you. Our mindsets are set from such a young age that we forget what life is really about. Life
is about finding those things that you love to do, that makes you happy, and sharing it with others. That is in my opinion what life is about.
Competition is always gonna be there, and that's a great way to drive us towards our goals. But in the end, competition is only a drive. We forget the concept that everybody is equal. Every person is equal unless you're God. You have no right to say you are better. It just shows that you are worse. We are all equal. Sure there are prettier people than us, but so what? Everyone in their own little way, is beautiful and attractive. We might not have the same attraction to the person as others, nor will we have the same exact characteristics as them either. Another person might have an extraordinary skill, making them have a different talent than us. But that does not give them the right to think that they're better than anyone else. It's cool that they're gifted and talented, but in the end, they're still an individual. Take the smartest kid in the group for example. They might be smarter than us, but that doesn't mean they're better. Everyone is equal, so why treat someone differently like they're nobody. We can honestly say that we don't know someone completely like they do, so who are we to judge. Who are we to say that they're below us? We eat, they eat. We work, they work. We study, they study. We have a family, they have a family. Take the competition mindset out of you're mind for one second and look at them for them. Don't judge them by what they wear, or their habits. We ,who do not walk in their shoes, live their life or know them personally, shall not judge. All in all, this short reading is something I hope we all understand. While there's those with a close mindset who don't wanna change, it's totally up to you. If you already knew this, than I admire you. If you need some help, I'm always willing to help. Just know this what I believe in, and if there's a problem with it, carry on. Never get worked up on the competition. There will always be opportunity and spotlight for you to capture. When it comes to those materialistic things, don't get overworked about them. Remember, if we were stripped of all our belongings and stood in a line with the rest of the world, what characteristics differ you from the people in front of you. What individual characteristics do you have? Not physical, or skill. But mentally speaking, how do you affect this world.? Beauty is only skin deep. Every person is equal. Learn, listen, and Live before you judge.


And don't forget. Dwyane Wade is playing tonight. 8 P.M for me, 5 P.M for the hometown.